Certain aspects of sex and female orgasms can be quite confusing, especially to newbies. If you’ve found yourself wondering about the many nuances of sex and the female orgasm, perhaps we can answer your questions.
Am I abnormal if I can’t orgasm?
No, you’re not abnormal, and there’s certainly nothing wrong with you if you can’t orgasm. There’s a good chance, however, that you’re anxious about not being able to orgasm, which doesn’t really help the issue. There’s also the chance that you’re not aroused enough, or aren’t being stimulated properly. A majority of women can’t climax through penetrative sex alone, and require manual stimulation of the clitoris.
Do I need to use lubricants to climax?
Using lubricants is still kind of taboo, because people believe that women get lubricated enough, and if they aren’t able to, then there’s something wrong with them. But it’s completely okay to use lubricants during sex or even during masturbation, if you want to. While you don’t need lubricant to climax, it certainly can help on days when you’re feeling dry down there.
How many times can I masturbate?
The number of times you masturbate depends on you, and only you. There’s no shame in showing yourself some love and you shouldn’t let anyone tell you otherwise. The added advantage of masturbation is that it will help you explore your own body and what makes you feel good, so that when you’re with your partner, there are higher chances of you reaching an orgasm.
Will exercising help me orgasm?
Exercising in general will help you become more flexible and improve your stamina in bed. When it comes to orgasms, Kegel exercises are found to be particularly effective. These exercises help strengthen your vaginal muscles, thus improving your chances of reaching an orgasm during sex. All you have to do is contract the muscles you use for peeing as tight as you can, hold for about three seconds, release and repeat. Do this 15 times per session, at least two times a day.
Is there any way that I might harm the clitoris?.
The clitoris might look and feel like a tiny little thing, but in reality, the nub you see on the surface is just the tip of the iceberg. That being said, you might just bruise it a bit if you’re being too rough with it, but the chances of you harming the clitoris irreparably are zero to none. One thing to note is that if you’ve just climaxed but continue to stimulate the clit, it might feel a bit sore and refuse to cooperate.
Does the G-spot exist?
While not all women experience G-spot orgasms, the internet and medical journals are rife with reports of a number of women who have experienced them. So while some of us may not be able to achieve the big O through G-spot stimulation, it’s safe to say that the magical sweet spot does exist.
Can one experience more intense orgasms?
Of course! One of the easiest ways of intensifying your orgasm is to manually stimulate yourself during penetrative sex. This could also help you experience a blended orgasm—climaxing both clitorally and vaginally. You could also try wearing warm socks during sex, which funnily enough helps you reach orgasm.