You know what infidelity means or what getting cheated on entails. But, what about micro-cheating? If you are still not familiar with the latest pop psychology term doing the rounds in the online dating space, micro-cheating is a kind of infidelity (not the physical kind) on a very minuscule level. For instance, if a man or a woman posts congratulatory messages to his or her ex on social media, out of the blue, that will count as micro-cheating. Or if you find yourself talking about your ex all the time, your partner might take it as micro-cheating. Or if your partner or you get very selective about disclosing details about the new work crush that has developed, that can also be micro-cheating. In other words, you or your partner might not be actually hopping into the bed with someone else, other than each other, but a variety of seemingly innocuous things, as mentioned above, can make you or your partner a micro-cheater. So is micro-cheating harmless or lethal? Here are some pros and cons:
No harm in a little flirting
The intentions may be harmless. It can be just mini-flirting of sorts and nothing more than that – provided your partner takes it in the right spirit. One can like an ex’s photo on social media, it’s just that one needs to ensure that lines are not crossed and things are not blown out of proportion.
Micro-cheating reveals that no one is perfect and no one should be expected to be a superhuman being with a monomaniac focus on one’s beloved. It can help partners recognise imperfections in themselves.
If such innocuous things are done on a regular basis, there might be an issue in the relationship. So if a tendency to micro-cheat is spotted, it should be discussed between the partners openly so that any insidious problems such as insecurities and jealousy are dealt with on a war footing.
Cheating is cheating
Some may say that the slightest attraction to another person outside your relationship can set the alarm bells ringing. Consistent micro-cheating can really snowball into a major issue. Trust issues are never beneficial for your relationship.
If you think that your partner is ‘micro-cheating’, ask yourself, are you trying to monitor him all the time? Do you stalk him on social media and try to sift through all his social media interactions? If you have a habit of pulling him up for every little indiscretion on social media, you might come across as a control freak. Think about it.