The jury is still out on whether it’s wise to out your coupledom on social media. Omens of relationship doom, however, aren’t stopping people from posting hints about their relationship status. “It’s human instinct to want to share good news with friends,” says Delhi-based psychologist and couples’ counsellor Rachna Khanna Singh. “Social media just makes it so much easier to do so. Also, a public announcement makes both partners more secure about the relationship.” Wondering how to make the big announcement? Depending on what stage of the proceedings you’re at, here are some ways to declare that you are taken.
We’re still testing things
Not comfortable with making the announcement yourself? Rope in a friend to put up a post where she “accidentally” outs you. For instance, model Karlie Kloss revealed that when pal Gigi Hadid was seeing her then-boyfriend Joe Jonas, she Instagrammed a picture of her, Joe and Gigi, and another couple on a double date—and that broke the news. Do remember to ask your partner though if he is okay with the picture being posted before you make it public.
We’re taking things slow
Instagram might be a better option if you want to avoid revealing it to the extended family on Facebook. You could take inspiration from Sonam Kapoor and her rumoured boyfriend, Anand Ahuja. The increasing presence of Kapoor in Ahuja’s Instagram pictures subtly hints at their relationship status. According to Lahore-based Laaleen Sukhera, founder of the Jane Austen Society of Pakistan and editor and contributor of Austenistan, when posting couple pictures you should “be selective and think in terms of quality over quantity”. Put up a picture of the two of you hanging out in a gang. Tag your SO to give your followers a subtle hint about his presence in your life.
We’re getting more serious
You can announce this even without revealing the identity of your man. Just Instagram a picture of you holding hands. It is less casual than a random selfie together. If you want to keep things more mysterious, Samaira Singh, a 25-year-old content writer, says, “Try coordinated posts in which you tag each other at the same location.” The amount of time you two are spending together might give people a hint about the relationship status.
There’s nothing like the presence of family to let the world know that things are finally moving into serious territory for you and your guy. Post a picture of the two of you out with your folks or chilling with your siblings, and make it clear that all those family approvals are in place.
“Couples see updating their relationship status as milestones that lets them gauge where things are headed,” says Khushnuma Daruwala, author of 50 Cups of Coffee: The Woes and Throes of Finding Mr Right. If you’re done being subtle, why not change your FB display picture to a picture of the two of you. Final step?
Actually change your relationship status.