Embarrassing or uncomfortable truths are the last things that anyone would like to share with their partner. We all have our dirty little secrets which we zealously guard, but there is no denying the fact that we need to be honest to share a good and healthy relationship with our partner. However, what remains unanswered is how much honesty is good for a relationship?
Let’s admit that telling your partner ‘everything’ is not humanly possible, bringing us to the most important issue: where should we draw the line? Well, issues that affects the two, no matter how uncomfortable or embarrassing, should always be shared.
In fact, sharing your secrets or not the ‘regular’ things can be very awkward at first. But once you overcome the awkwardness, you will be surprised to find how wonderful it feels to talk about these unapproachable issues. According to experts, sharing embarrassing things with a partner shows that you trust him or her and are ready to let them have a look at your true self; this in turn strengthens the relationship and encourages the other person to open up too.
Here are a few topics, which definitely might appear a bit embarrassing but when shared, these will help you to bond with your partner:
Mistakes you have made in the past
It’s only human to make mistakes. While some learn from the mistakes they have committed in the past, others learn to live with it. Certain things, which might qualify as a mistake for you might not be the same for others. For example, you might have had a one-night stand after having a few more pegs than necessary. Once you regain your senses, the incident may haunt you and you might end up worrying that this might affect your relationship. If you lead a life in guilt, will you be able to give your 100 per cent to the relationship? Such things affect both and are best shared, no matter how embarrassing or uncomfortable it might be.
Yes, sharing your sexual fantasies, no matter how weird those might be, will bring you closer to your partner. We agree that it might be a little difficult to open-up about what turns you on (but trust us, you are not the only person who might fantasise about the most random stuff). Sharing your sexual fantasies also mean that you are ready to experiment with your dark desires, which will also encourage your partner to do the same. It’s a win-win situation for both, because you will only end up having awesome sex together.
We all lie about small things, which we believe would not affect the lives of people around us. Same holds true for any relationship. When we start dating a person or fiddle with the idea of getting into a serious commitment, we try to hide a lot of things about ourselves only because we are not very comfortable with the other person initially. One of the most common lies that people tell when they date a person is about their food habit. We do that to find acceptance. For example, if you go out on a date and the other insists you to have a few pegs of drink, it might sometimes be difficult to decline the offer. The best way to handle the situation is to say that you drink occasionally (a small lie here or there won’t harm anyone, right). But once the affair takes a serious turn, it’s best to admit your white lies because how long could you pretend to like something that you actually detest?
History of sexually transmitted diseases
Now, this is a very important issue. Your partner has every right to know if you had any kind of sexually transmitted disease in the past. We all make mistakes, but mistakes that may be bad for your partner’s health should not be kept a secret. If treated properly, most of the STDs (baring a few) are curable. It’s best that your partner should know everything about your sexual health.