Have you found yourself wondering why your relationships always end sooner or later? You feel like it’s going great and maybe, just maybe, you’ve found the one, but after a point things go sour. You know for a fact that you keep picking the wrong guy. They’re handsome, charming and emotionally unavailable, but you can’t seem to stop attracting this type. We’ve rounded up five reasons you keep picking emotionally unavailable men and the reasons might just shock you.
You may have issues with your dad
This may sound a bit Freudian, but if your father wasn’t emotionally invested in the family or in his relationship with you, then that might reflect in your future relationships. You get too used to being your own emotional support and continue the pattern later in life. This way, you’re conditioned to believe that you don’t need emotional intelligence in the man you date/marry.
You feel like you don’t deserve it
Sometimes, with low self-esteem comes the belief that you don’t deserve the good things in life. You feel like you’re no good and you’re quick to apologise for the tiniest mistake you make. So even if a man cares about you or shows interest in the things you like, chances are you will push him away and go back to dating someone who doesn’t care.
You think smart men are emotionally aloof
The belief that smart, intellectual types live in their heads is partly to blame for this. If you really believe that all smart men have walls built around them then you’re sadly mistaken. There are tons of smart men who are emotionally intelligent and available, and you can definitely find one if only you get rid of this notion.
You care more about stability than love
Stability and security in a relationship is more important to you than an emotional connection. You are more attracted to what the man has to offer in terms of a good future than true love and emotional availability.
You don’t want to feel vulnerable yourself
Finally, we come down to a little self-reflection. Do you feel ready to be with someone who is emotionally available? Does the thought of having a deep connection with someone terrify you? Then maybe it’s you who is scared to feel vulnerable around another person and are subconsciously picking men who aren’t looking for anything serious.