While some feel that sex with an ex is exciting, there are others who swear never to be caught in the same web twice. However, there is a sense of comfort and familiarity about getting into bed with someone you’ve known and loved for a long time. But it can be equally confusing as the act can trick you into thinking that you’re back together. Here are a few questions you should ask yourself before sleeping with an ex:
Are you hoping to get back?
It’s possible that sex can bring you two closer together, but it’s also likely that it won’t resolve all the issues that caused your breakup. So, it’s probably not the best idea to have sex with an ex, especially if he is not keen to patch things up.
Does it make you happy?
If you feel great the next morning or right after, then go right ahead. However, if the act leaves you feeling miserable, used, and filled with regret then avoid jumping into bed with him the next time.
How do you feel about the ‘arrangement’?
You need to think long and hard about whether you’re alright with not hearing from him or getting no good night texts. After all, you both aren’t dating and it’s purely physical, so he doesn’t owe you anything. In fact, he’s free to hook up with other partners as well. If this hurts you or makes you uncomfortable, then you might as well stay away from him.
Can you let go of the past?
After a breakup you tend to have plenty of unresolved issues. If you decide to sleep together, then you need to be able to let go of the past, else you both will end up fighting and arguing, which can’t be fun for either of you.
Is the sex worth it?
This is probably the most important question. It’s natural to enjoy having sex with someone you have romantic feelings for, even if it’s not that mind-blowing. But now that you’re single, you deserve to be pleasured the right way. So if the sex is mediocre, then it’s really not worth the trouble.